The most common mistakes people make when they don't listen to each other….

Don't listen

1. Mind reading, you know the other person better than he knows himself
2. Blame instead of wishes
3. The 'I Say, Pattern'‘
4. Generalize
5. Requirements of feelings or spontaneous behavior
6. To talk in general terms
7. Questions that aren't questions: 'Do you still love me a little?'‘
8. Attacking the Man: Insults from Character Analysis
9. Look at yourself reactions
10. To stray from the topic and dredge up old grist.
11. Yes, but.

Annet Huffels, Talking to your partner.